Alfred Adler, an Austrian psychiatrist who lived around the same time
as Sigmund Freud, was one of the first theorists to suggest that birth
order may influence personality. He suggested that birth order leaves a
life-long impression on one’s style of life, the way s/he deals with
friendship, love, and work. Other things that influence a person are
parental attitude, illnesses, disabilities, gender, and the social,
economic and religious situation of the family. Other things that
should be considered along with birth order are the spacing of years
between the siblings, the total number of children, and the parent’s
situation over time. The influence of birth order on the development of
personality has long been a controversial issue in psychology. Some
are in strong agreement that birth order does affect personality, and
others disagree completely.
Now, some parents may argue that the second child is not treated any
differently than the first child was. But let’s be honest. After
you’ve seen your first child take a first step, say a first word, and do
all of those other firsts, it’s a little less remarkable to see it in
your other children. Whether or not you want to admit it, the middle or
second child will always be competing for the lime light with the
oldest and youngest children. This is one of the main causes of middle
or second child syndrome.
Second or middle children usually bemoan their fate as being ignored
by everyone in the family. They may grow resentful or all the attention
given to the oldest and youngest of the family. Second born children
will often try to be the exact opposite in personality, interests, etc.
from the first born child. S/he will often do almost anything for
parental attention, even if that means being naughty. Parents tend to
be much easier and less demanding on the second and third children.
Middle or second children have to compete to be heard or noticed, and
therefore crave the spotlight in other ways. They may be the loud,
boisterous child in school. They may be the center of all their
friends’ events.
The middle or second born child often have a feeling of not belonging to the group. Being in the middle can make the second child feel insecure. They may lack the drive and motivation that is so prevalent in the first born. The second child may instead look to the first born for direction. This may also make the second born feel out of place because they aren’t over achievers. Instead, the middle child usually just goes with the flow.
Second born children are often loners. They may have trouble
latching on to a person in a relationship. They may also have trouble
making decisions in school and in a career. Second or middle borns are
usually artistic and creative, but don’t work well under pressure. They
have a history of starting projects and never finishing them. When
choosing a career, most middle or second children would be best suited
for something where they could freely express themselves, have flexible
hours and frequently changing projects.
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ANAK DEGIL
Anak kedua dikatakan lebih degil, keras kepala dan tidak mendengar kata. semua dia ajer yg betul..dlm ramai2 adik beradik dia aje yg xnak dgr ckp .. kemahuan dia kuat.. kalau buat sesuatu sungguh2… kalau tak nak tu, tak nak lah jawabnya, boleh dipujuk tapi selalunya tak berapa jalan..
TAK PANDAI PUJUK
memang anak no 2 ni dia tak pujuk makwe / pakwe dia..
BERCINTA
kalau bercinta, sangat setia…sanggup berkorban …
HITAM / PUTIH
Apa yg dikatakan semua dipegang kalau hitam2 hitamlah kalau putih …. putihlah ….degil tak boleh toleransi
HATI
No 2 ni juga nampak ajer keras…tp hati dia lembut juga….SATU lagi peel dia…dia tak boleh ditegur….kalau kita tegur dia mesti tarik muka
BERDIKARI
very independent..mmg betul..tp kalau terlebih indepent pun payah…..Tp mudah bergaul..campak lah kat manapun sekejap dah dapat kawan..very take care of her brother and all stuff belonging family.( sebab terlalu ambil berat pun menyampah semua adik2 kena control kena report kat diorang ) ..
ARAHAN
anak no 2 ni juga dia payah nk terima arahan…dia lebih suka buat hal sendiri pendek kata..tak boleh kerja ngan org
PEMAAF & caring
tak dinafikan no 2 ni pun pemaaf & caring…TAPI awas jgn bg diorg marah….kalau marah faham susah nak maafkan
PAKAIAN
Nak ajer up to date…semua nak kemas....
to be honest most of them above is true coz i,me n myself is the second child in the family :(
